Wife is upset at how husband handled key parenting task — now the dilemma's gone viral
A father who shared his story on the popular Reddit page known as AITA ("Am I the a--hole?") hasn't been getting much love from others about what happened.
Some 5,000 people have so far reacted to his story in less than 24 hours and the overwhelming verdict is that the hapless dad mishandled a key parenting task.
"I have two kids, who are 2 and 4 years old," wrote the father.
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"And one thing I try to reinforce with them is that if Mom or Dad says ‘no,’ if they go to the other parent — the answer they will get is no."
He added, "Which means if they ask my wife, and she says no, regardless of how I feel on the matter, I'm going to back her up. And I expect my wife to do the same."
"This morning," wrote a dad on social media," [our] 4-year-old asked my wife if she could get out a game that always makes a mess." (iStock)
Then came the problem.
"Well, this morning," wrote the dad, going by the username "Acrobatic-Garbage-52," "we were getting ready to leave and [our] 4-year-old asked my wife if she could get out a game that always makes a mess."
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The man added, "So my wife said no."
Immediately, however, the 4-year-old then "turned to me and asked the same question."
Some 5,000 people weighed in with reaction to a young dad's parenting dilemma — with a harsh verdict rendered on Reddit. (iStock)
So the dad replied, "No, your mom told you no."
The father wrote that this answer "upset my wife, and I don't quite understand why" — and he then asked others for their opinion of how he handled it.
They delivered their verdicts.
"The way you phrased it had an undertone of, ‘Mom is a killjoy and I might have said yes.’"
In the top "upvoted" response on the platform, a commenter tried to explain to the man why he botched things.
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"I think, ‘Your mom already answered you,’ is much better," this commenter wrote.
Others also weighed in to help the dad see the light.
The father (not pictured) wrote that his answer to his kids "upset my wife, and I don't quite understand why" — and he asked others for their opinion of how he handled a particularly tricky parenting issue. (iStock)
"I get what you were trying to do," wrote another person, "which was teach your child that if they get a ‘no’ from one parent, they shouldn't ask the other parent. But the way you phrased it [had] an undertone of, ‘Mom is a killjoy and I might have said yes.’"
Another person responding to the dilemma put it this way: "The problem is not with what you are doing, but how you are phrasing it."
This person said, "Your phrasing can be taken to mean, ‘I might have said yes, but your mother said no’ — thereby making her the bad guy."
"Talk with your wife. Find out why this upset her."
The person went on, "Your kids are too young to understand the kind of ‘united front’ setup that you want to emphasize, therefore you need to stick just with something that is more like ‘No.’ or ‘No, you were already told no.’"
Another person on Reddit who commented shared a thoughtful message with the young father.
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"Talk with your wife. Find out why this upset her," the person wrote, in part. "Make a plan of action of how to deal with it in the future."
And yet another commenter shared a similar but far more pointed message.
"You should be asking your wife why she's upset, not Reddit," said this commenter.
Fox News Digital reached out to a psychologist for insight into the issue.
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Maureen Mackey is managing editor of lifestyle for Fox News Digital.
